My husband told me the other day that I was turning 55 this year. He didn’t mean anything by it, he is not an ungracious man. He himself is turning 55 this year (several months before me). He loves me whether I am 35, 50, 72 or 99. It made me realize that I don’t have long before the successfully svelte sixties are upon me!
I am mother to four wonderfully funny, intelligent, gorgeous girls, grandmother to two of the best grandchildren in the world, stepmother to three very handsome boys and wife to a wonderful man who loves me as I am. I am fierce about family and dear friends and spending time with all of them.
I have tried just about every diet out there and have had success with all of them. My problem is keeping the weight off. I always lapse right back into my ‘feel good’ way of eating and not exercising, which really is not so ‘feel good’ in the long run.
Throwing fear of embarrassment to the wind and getting fierce about attaining the goals of my fifties (fitness being one of them), I will let you know my most recent motivating factor. I broke the toilet seat! I know you are probably asking yourself ‘Just how fat of a bottom does this lady have?’. I will leave the answer to your imagination. That wonderful man I married assured me it was a defective seat (he is so easy to love)! However, the fact remains that my fat bottom was the ‘straw’ that broke the toilet’s seat. If that is not a wake-up call to get Fierce I am not sure what it!
I hope this blog will keep me motivated and accountable and that we can have some fun with our fierce-selves. I am no expert at this but if I have learned anything these past 54 years it’s that everything is easier when you don’t do it alone.
I am a life-time member of Weight Watchers. I’m pretty sure if I contact them, they will pay me to agree not to put myself out there as a spokesperson on their behalf. I am just not one of their Success stories. One can’t expect to have long-term success when they get an ice cream cone after the meeting, using the ‘logic’ that it is 7 days until the next weigh-in – plenty of time to atone for the sin. I wish I had remembered to take off my Weight Watcher name tag before entering the ice cream store.
My New Year’s Resolutions have looked the same for 30 years: I will lose weight, I will stop procrastinating, I will get more organized. Then I usually add one or two that are actually attainable (i.e. I will read more fiction, I will switch from ice cream to gelato, etc.) In the past year I had a total knee replacement, was diagnosed with breast cancer, had more surgery and radiation treatments, lost a close family member, and had a second total knee replacement – and for most of that time I continued a regular work schedule in a high stress (family law attorney) job. During one of the most challenging years of my life, there was an abundance of blessings, lessons, and growth opportunities. One of the major lessons learned was that I have to start doing something different. I have to prioritize living in a healthy manner – physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
I love where I am in life. I’ve been married to a very special man for 36 years. I have dear friends, supportive family members, and employment that I enjoy very much. But I could do this so much better if got healthier. Notice I didn’t say ‘if I lost weight’ or ‘could stick to a diet?’ Sure, losing weight is a goal – but it will result from the overall changes I want to make in order to live a better life, be a better wife, friend, family member and attorney.
These are topics that M and I have talked about for years. We’re done just talking. We’re ready for ‘doing.’ And writing. And having fun doing both. We are all experts on what we do that’s not working and finding ways to do things better – so it’s our hope that this blog will turn into a community where we all connect and share the good, the bad, the ugly, and the fixes. And you don’t have to be fifty or fat-bottomed to join us – you just have to be up for celebrating wherever you are in life and some discussion about how we can do things better. While having fun doing it!